Hi Ketil,
This sounds like something that should be taken up with RS Customer Support, or the country agent if outside the UK.
I have an early pre-recessed deck ring boat, and had to fit the above deck ring.
In discussion it transpired that the part of the deck around the mast tube at least has a marine-ply core between the (carbon fibre) laminate; so could take the mounting screws no-problem.
My vang cleat base i found was on the wrong way round, slots pointing forwards not aft, and I changed it around no-problem.
My suspicion with yours is that maybe smaller diameter screws have been used than the size of hole that was pre-drilled?
Have you checked ?
The sealant is there for just that; to keep the hull water-tight, and is used on the deck ring and deck tidy screws just the same.