I'm about 72 kg - was out in 30 know gusts last week.
Close reach, beam reach or broad reach?
Close reach is just plain hard work - downhaul helps with kicker eased a bit to keep the top mast bent.
Beam reach almost certainly the issue is not keeping the boat flat. Easing a bit of kicker for sure to let the top twist off a bit but hike out well back and really work the sheet to keep the boat flat. Bear away in gusts and come back up in the lulls. Sometimes I could see the whole top of the sail was spilling as the mast bent and freed the leech.
Broad reach same but sit a bit further back if the bow wants to drive down.
Plate up (about 6-8 inches showing) seems to works for me.